4 Secrets to Crash your #Fears Now!

I had an interesting journey in my own #life, how I faced my fears and started walking the path in the direction of my #dreams. I grew up in a very poor neighborhood, a place where kids grow up and do something similar their peers will do (early marriage, teen pregnancy etc ) but what our parents hoped for is we become doctors, lawyers, or pilots. It was the type of place that you would tell your dream to someone, and they would look at you like you were from Jupiter. They would think you had lost your mind because people were brainwashed to be “realistic”. Dreams to them were fairy dust.

For me, my childhood dream was to travel the world and see whats beyond it while impacting positively the lives of people that I meet adding a smile to a dull face. The path that I’m on currently, and while it’s a definite struggle at times, the energy, excitement, and joy I feel inside myself, is unlike anything I’ve ever felt before.

We all live in a box that our human mind has created and we protect ourselves from what our human mind says "external attacks"  or self-esteem, worried about what people think about you. You’re worried about not being good enough. You’re worried about offending other people. You’re worried about failing. Literally, you have designed every detail of your life to protect yourself from the fears and internal conflicts you aren’t willing to face. Tony Robbins,  said, “You always get out of life exactly what you tolerate.” You’ve learned to tolerate living with your fears and internal conflicts. As a result, you’ve settled for a life far beneath your potential.

But in order to achieve my dream of a world traveler, I had to make a self-call of action and accept that fear was my real enemy. I needed to learn (still I am) to keep it on a leash. In order to start, I had to understand the following:

1. Change group and surround yourself with positive and supportive people. I found this one to be very important. Get rid of people who project their insecurities, negativity, and fears onto you. Be a part of a happy group.

2. You have to have a plan: The best way to mitigate your fear is with extreme strategy and planning. By this, I mean goal setting as well as creating a vision. The sooner you envision your dream as a goal, and then break that goal down into specific parts; it becomes instantly less scary and more attainable. To compliment your goals, you need to begin creating your vision. In my opinion, the most effective strategy for doing this is through creating positive mental affirmations. Before you go to sleep every night, and when you wake up in the morning, spend fifteen minutes creating a picture of what your world is like when you achieve your goals. Then speak aloud, positive affirmations to yourself, something in line with your goals that begins manifesting qualities in yourself that you’ll need to reach your goals. The bottom line is that if you venture into the jungle (in pursuit of a big dream) without a plan you will get nowhere, you will end up tangled in the vines, frustrated and wanting to turn back. Goals, unwavering optimism, and enthusiasm will be your machete to hack away at all your obstacles along the way.

3. Be prepared for a long road: This goes back to the point about having to #love what it is you’re doing. You have to because big success doesn’t come overnight. And if it does come overnight, it will be fleeting and won’t last because you won’t have obtained the necessary skills to get to that level. Many life coaches will refer to this “road” as an “apprenticeship”. You have to be prepared to live this out in pursuit of your dream. You have to be working towards a greater purpose, something that’s bigger than yourself.

4. Concentrate on not letting your own mind amplify fear. #Meditation has helped me even more lately, I try to quiet down all the what ifs. I play my own attorney and object to every what if that comes to my mind, imagining only positive outcomes out of the situation, as many as possible. What if I a volcano erupt in the next destination I go? — I will have a chance to see it and experience the life of unknown for once.

The truth is — we don’t know what is behind the closed doors, but what is life if we stay locked in one room and never see the outside of it. #Life should be an adventure, with ups and downs, with rewards and struggles. The more you face your fears without repeating bad experiences, the less your mind will associate those situations with pain. And, depending on how the repeat experiences are, you might even start enjoying the very thing that you were afraid of!

Remember, Be who you want to be, not who your #fears define you as. Live for a purpose bigger than yourself, something you believe in your bones.

Dear readers; What are the fears in your life that you’ve faced? How did you overcome them and what did you learn from that experience? Comment below.