Must Try: 6 Perspective of Happiness!

The most important women in my life have taught me many things that have kept me afloat throughout my years, but there have been three that have remained constant—to enjoy the things you have, to see the good that’s all around, and to stand.

I don’t know about you, but I’m forever trying to understand what this all means—the circumstances of my life, the constant state of change, the positive and negative moments that happen to me and those I love. It’s always felt so important to me to know, or at least to try to know. I’ve forever had this desire to be someone who has it all together and figured out.

What I’ve realised, is that when it comes to life and all its turns and twists, the only thing you can really change is your perspective and the direction you want to head because You are a story made of journeys and scars and pain and there is something incredible about you. You may not see it, you may not feel it, you may not even believe it, but you are a true hidden beauty of the most incredible proportions. And the truth is, you need someone who helps you see it. You see, the wrong people, they would like nothing more than for you to never see how incredible you are because how else would they be able to control you.

Here are 6 ways you can transform your perspective to become the best version of you.

1. Discover your greatest fear: What is your greatest fear? What do you think lies behind it? Do you think you can challenge it? Has there ever been a time when you didn’t fear that? What changed? My greatest fear is death.

Since I was a little girl I had many dreams and visualised alot, that I was even too scared to face it, since I would look at the state of poverty we were in and I was like its never going to happen. Then I worked through my fears with visualising and how being in that plane traveling the world made me happy and I wasn't in denial anymore. And I have ever since jumped straight through my fear to face any chapter of my life no matter what.

2. This world is a dual world: The physical world and what we see and feel is not all there is. There is a world of spirit and purpose underneath it, and no matter what it looks like on the outside, there is much more going on beneath the circumstances we perceive as negative. If I can remember that and tap into the deeper meaning behind what I am experiencing, then I can accept what I am going through with greater ease.

3. Stay still: No activity whatsoever, be still for 20 minutes – easier said than done, especially for me. I can’t sit still without rushing somewhere EVER. It is the most difficult thing to tackle. I tried to do it for just couple minutes at first and it has its perks. Would be even better not to think about anything and let go of all the problems and ideas in your head, but that is IMPOSSIBLE! Well, for me, now, I hope I’ll be able to do it someday. I suppose this one comes close to meditation, but we don’t need that word to sit still for a minute or two and enjoy whatever benefits you can sow from it. Mine was – a blink of bliss, really short one, but sensational.

4. Stop comparing your life to everyone else’s: The times it makes you feel good about yourself are only a fraction compared to how often it makes you feel miserable. The fact is, people only post their highlights on social media, but I guarantee their backstage is just as mundane and shitty as everyone else’s.

5. Hobbies and interests outside of your work are of equal importance and will provide you with a very full and enriching life. If things are moving slowly in one area, you still have other outlets for enjoyment and creativity. In a writing slump? Go work on some sketches. No drawing inspiration? Go play guitar. Too stuffy inside? Go for a nice walk.

6. Law of attraction: I want you to hang onto to this like a diamond. I was feeling great about myself. I was taking care of myself, having fun hanging out with my girlfriends, running regularly, my job was going well. At that time a few men asked me out. Not together mind you because, well, that would be weird lol. I wasn’t into dating at the time. I was feeling extra cautious. Not cautiously optimistic, plain old cautious as I was a little gun shy from the last guy and the guy before him. I wasn’t sure I wanted to jump back in the dating pool again. I should have listened to myself. Fast forward when I decided it was time to get back to the ring and after I was emotionally in a good place ( darlings this requires some levelling up to self), I decided to give one of them a shot. He surprised me. He was not what I expected at all. I genuinely liked him and here is the kicker we are married :).

We have a choice in how we view things. Today, I look back on all that I have been through in the past year and instead of feeling consumed by it, I feel that so much has come from it. I found myself in the midst of all the dark I nurtured myself to an extreme better version of me.

Somewhere along the way, I was able to find the silver lining in my rainbows, and you can too. Take a look at your life and think of the many tough times you have endured and the many blessings that have arisen from them.

You have a chance to find the bright side to your situation, no matter how tough it seems, by only changing your view and identifying the positive of every experience. There is a lesson in the pain and there is a beautiful rose in your thorn bush.

Remember, changing your perspective is like changing the window of how you view the world. When you change how you view the world, you change how you feel about it and everything falls back into place.

I would like to hear your experience. Comment below and let me know, and if you have any private experience you would like to share email me@rahabmbisee.com