Self Healing: Take Charge for Thyself

How do you heal your soul? Healing your mind is completely different, because you aren’t returning to what you were before. You are gutting yourself and becoming someone entirely new.

Healing your mind is not the same thing as healing your body. When you’re wounded, you often go through a progressive,  linear repair. You get better, until one day, you are nearly back to where you were before.

I still remember one beautiful morning many years ago when I finally fully recognized how much I had been hurting myself with my persistent negative talks. I used to believe that I wasn’t good enough to have and enjoy the type of life that I wanted, that I wasn’t attractive enough to meet the kind of man I dreamed of, or that I would never reach the ability to fulfil my potential.

I was looking at life through the lens of my upbringing...a broken family...a mother who kept singing how nothing good will come out of me and much more. I finally said enough was enough. This wasn't like a walk in the park but certainly it made me the woman I am right now as I type this.:)

I had to take responsibility of my life as quickly as possible because in reality I was crumbling inside. I started journaling every little details of what was inside me to a piece of paper. I made some affirmations that kept me through the hard days....I remember saying out loud this is me kissing the past goodbye. This is me leaving all of my baggage behind and learning how to forgive myself. The burdens that I carried for too long, the fears that haunt me with every new exciting opportunity and the voices inside my head that cripple me from finding joy. This is me kissing them all goodbye and trying to start over. Trying to learn that the past doesn’t always repeat itself, that I’ve grown and learned and evolved so I can trust myself to make better decisions. This is me slowly learning to trust myself again. This is me learning to trust the universe. This is me learning how to have faith again that the stars will eventually align and timing will finally be on my side.

Here are six ways I raided my built-in medicine cabinet and worked through my healing process:

1. Thinking positive: “Everything’s going to be fine.” Go on, try to convince yourself. I even ended up publishing a book on the power of positive thinking because it impacted my life.

2. Meditation & Yoga: This can be found here by reading this article

3. Self-esteem: As I make positive choices, I see how those decisions and actions impact my health, rebuilding my sense of competency, self efficiency and in turn my self-esteem. This encourages further acceptance, insight and action. And now I can teach you as well how to build your own self esteem click here to schedule a meeting

4. Knowing your purpose: This is very essential during your healing journey as you are going to become a new person and who is that person is very important for you. I have written more about finding your purpose you are welcome to read)

5. Healing - When I allowed myself to accept that I actually had a problem and it wasn't caused by other people this is where healing journey starts to take place. I started restoring the sense of meaning, purpose, sense of self and quality of life, despite struggles.

6. Meaning - As healing occurs, the self returns to new wholeness complete with these past new experiences and new choices. It is here meaning can unfold. Via discovery, meaning, from an otherwise painful experience, is birthed. Discovery of familial history, personal strengths, bonds of love, friendship and belief systems play a pivotal role in crafting purpose( check number 4).

One thing I gotta make clear here is this process will take a few years to fully heal and release those past burdens that haunt you every time you’re about to embark on a new journey or take a new job or fall for a new person. There are days where you will want sabotage before you begin because that’s what you know and that’s what you’re used to but there will always be this glimmer of hope inside of you that maybe this time it will be different, that maybe this new opportunity is not a disaster in disguise, that maybe the things that feel good are actually good for you and you deserve them.

Healing somedays means burning bridges and cutting your losses because broken things were broken for a reason and if you’re going to hurt yourself again mending them then you’re better off without them. True healing means abandoning anything toxic even if it’s the last thing you want to do.

So let today be the day you say to self I’m committing to starting over, to believing again, to loving again and to trusting again. As there will always be this glimmer of hope that since you’re healing, everything around you is healing too.

Are you struggling with self healing? drop an email at me@rahabmbisee.com and together we are going to discover your purpose. Lets Change Your Life